Browsing for fertility advice on the Internet, one is informed that one must have sex every other day before ovulation occurs in order to conceive. For many couples, that seems reasonable enough, and they do not give it another thought.
Being curious one would like to know more and even the fact that if every other day one can have sex then why not every day? No doubt, sex every other day does seem too much. Could one get away with having sex a little less? How did one land on the consensus for sex every other day? Is it an Internet gossip news piece or is it backed by research?
Often it is recommended to have sex every other day and there is a number of factors that influence the recommendation, some of them contradicting one another.
A sperm count of at least 20 million parts per milliliter is required for conception to occur, and studies do show that chances of conception are highest when it’s at least 40-50 million/mL. There is indeed a wide range for what is considered “normal” when it comes to sperm count—anywhere from 35 to 120 million/mL.
One would like to ensure that when one has sex, one has sufficient or rather a high amount of sperm concentration for conception to be possible; the best way to achieve this to give a day off between ejaculations. Of course, it is also possible that one’s partner has such a high sperm count that he in fact never falls below 40 million/mL. If that is the case, one can have sex as often as one would like without any conception probability repercussions.
Ejaculating every two to three days does keep the sperm healthy. If one’s partner goes more than two or three days without ejaculating, his sperm count will indeed rise, but so will the proportion of dead, immobile, or morphologically abnormal sperm, thus harming one’s chances for conception.
Having sex every day during the fertile period (usually the five days leading up to the day of ovulation, and the day of ovulation itself) does give one a 25 percent chance of conceiving. Doing it every other day gives one slightly lower chances, 22 percent. When couples do have sex just once per week, conception does probably drop dramatically—to just 10 percent. One can track one’s fertile window with ovulation tests, vaginal discharge (aka cervical mucus), or the Ava bracelet. If one has a difficult time tracking one’s fertile period or just do not feel like it, one can have sex roughly every other day all month long. With this schedule, one is guaranteed to have sex at some point during one’s peak fertile time.
One might think as to what to do in one’s non-fertile window that does not have much of an impact on one’s chances of conception. In fact, it does. A couple of recent studies do suggest, somewhat radically, that sex changes a woman’s immune system in ways that do improve her chances of conceiving.
Burnout is an issue to reckon with and I major problem no doubt. Couples do try to cope up with it particularly those trying to get trying to get pregnant who struggle with a feeling of burnout when it does come to sex. Many use the various words such as “robotic,” “tedious,” “stressful,” and “emotionally draining when it comes to sex for conception.” Many couples are not much interested in conception probability with daily sex versus every-other-day as they feel it is not worth it at times.